Low libido in menopause is not uncommon. You might think after decades of painful cramps, the stopping of your periods would be a time to celebrate. However, menopause can bring its own challenging symptoms, including (but not limited to):
- Hot flushes
- Mood swings
- Changes in appetite
- Thinning hair
- Reduction in breast fullness
Many women may experience a low libido in menopause. There are two reasons why a woman might experience a decline in sex drive around this time of her life. This can be psychological or physical.
Psychologically, a woman may simply lose interest in sex. There’s a lot going on during perimenopause and beyond, and sometimes this causes a woman to experience a drop in libido. Try not to worry too much - these dips can be short-lived, and there are lots that you can do to spice up your sex life when the mood takes you. If you don't feel that libido creeping back, it's worth discussing with your GP. Sometimes you can be referred for talking therapies, and you may find this helps. You can either chat with a therapist alone, or take your partner along if you prefer.
The other reason for a lack of arousal can be physical. The hormone changes associated with menopause can cause vaginal dryness, resulting in sex which can be painful. During menopause, there is a reduction in oestrogen. This is the main hormone responsible for keeping the vagina healthy and lubricated. A reduction in natural lubrication can cause pain during vaginal intercourse and also during daily activity.
However, it's important to remember that a good sex life isn't something which needs to end at the start of menopause. With the right advice and using the most effective lubricant, you can enjoy a healthy sex life throughout menopause and beyond.
Vaginal dryness is a topic many women are embarrassed to discuss. However, with so many women affected (due to menopause, as well as a host of other reasons), it's important we talk about this openly so more women are able to receive the correct treatment and start feeling more like themselves.
If you have any concerns related to your sex drive or if you're experiencing discomfort due to vaginal dryness, your GP will be able to offer advice and guidance so you can get back to leading an enjoyable sex life.